kirei.keiko asked:


My parents always call me names, saying I’m a stupid whore, or saying my friends are shit, and anything I like is crap. Everything I do is wrong. I’m not allowed to make mistakes in my house. I’m always trying to please my parents but nothing ever works. They’ve never threatened my physically, but I know they don’t love me. Ever since second grade, I’ve been writing in my diary about my hatred towards my parents. They don’t listen to me. My problems are always just because it’s my fault to them. Yet I still try to please them. I told myself to move out on my 18th birthday, but I still have 3 years, and I can’t stand it any longer. What should I do?
thanks for all the help but there’s just one thing… in my culture, ‘talking’ to parents is just weird. there’s no such sentence as ‘i love you’ or ‘i need to talk to you’ it’ll be another excuse for them to say i’m stupid.

Greg

bleu asked:


my boyfriend who is 27 years old and i were fighting. he called me a b*tch. he told me to shut the fu*k up and i’m fu*king annoying. i told him never to say those things to me and he said everyone curses when they’re mad and he said i deserved to be called that at that moment. i said so i’m a bit*h? and he said if i acted like one at that moment i deserve to be called that. he never called me that afterwards. but he did say to shut the f up and im f-in annoying a few more times. i never cursed at him nor called him names b/c i just had that respect. everyone raises their voice when they’re mad but he told me never to raise my voice. i tried to speak one time and he kept repeating “i’m the victim, i’m the victim over and over” while i was speaking so he didnt hear me. he said i’m mentally ill, i drive him away and i make him sick. he said he’s usually not like this to anyone and i bring this side of him out. i frustrate him so much.

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i ask him why he’s with me if i make him sick and i drive him away? and he said you’re right so he leaves me. but he calls me a week later and just plays with my emotions. i love him but he gives me a hard time. when we break up or he just leaves saying i make him sick, i try so hard to move on even though it’s hard. and then after a week or two of not calling he calls, i don’t pick up. he doesnt leave a message. then he doesnt call. what is he doing? playing games???? what do i do??? he told me i make him sick and i drove him away. last night he calls me a few times but doesnt leave a message. now he hasnt called and im looking at my phone. do i have to call him back? is he playing games with me? what is he doing??????????? plesse help me. i just turned off my phone b/c i kept looking at it thinking is he going to call. do i just move on?
ALSO, HE LEFT ME FOR HIS EX GF WHOM HE DATED FOR 5 YEARS. HE MET ME 7MONTHS LATER AND WE DATED FOR 1 YEAR AND 4 MONTHS. HE MAKES ME FEEL LIKE I’M THE ONE WITH THE PROBLEM SINCE HIS EX GF TOLD HIM SHE STILL LOVED HIM AND HE’S WITH HER NOW. IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME? IS HE VERBALLY ABUSING ME? B/C IF HE WAS DOING THAT TO HER TOO THEN WHY DOES SHE STILL WANT HIM BACK? HE MAKES ME FEEL LIKE I’M THE ONE WITH THE PROBLEM. DOES HE DO THIS ONLY TO ME? THEN WHY DOES HIS EX GF TELL HIM SHE STILL LOVES HIM AND THEY’RE BACK TOGETHER? I’M SO HURT AND BETRAYED. HE JUST LEFT ME.

Geoff

Tary L asked:


I feel a definition of mental abuse is that a parent tells a child the other parent doesn’t love the child . That’s why the parent is leaving. Is that not abuse? The parent that is leaving being told you will never get custody you haven’t enough money. Is this abuse?

Anne

S. Williams asked:


Are you dealing with an abusive ex that you’re still in love with? I have some advice on how to deal with an abusive ex, and rescue your relationship. Relationship rescue is not impossible with an abusive ex, you just need to know how to deal with an abusive ex.

Relationship Rescue - How to Deal With an Abusive Ex - Tip 1

Dealing with an abusive ex boyfriend/girlfriend can be a bitch. You still love them but they continue to hurt your feelings. You ask yourself “how can I still love her/him after that?” The first step to relationship rescue, and dealing with an abusive ex, is to start using the no contact rule, and stick to it.

Don’t worry they aren’t going anywhere or they wouldn’t be contacting you, after all they already left…didn’t they? Your relationship rescue will be more successful if you stop worrying about things you have no control over.

Relationship Rescue - How to Deal With an Abusive Ex - Tip 2

Another great way to deal with an abusive ex husband/wife is to work on your emotional control while using the no contact rule. Having emotional control will help you to not take it so personal. Relationship rescue requires focus and determination, while you deal with an abusive ex.

You see sometimes you make matters worst by thinking with your heart, not your head. Use your head and you will find it a lot easier to deal with an abusive ex. You should be thinking about a plan for getting your ex back, if you still love them. If not, you will still need a good plan for getting over your abusive ex.

Relationship Rescue - How to Deal With an Abusive Ex - Tip 3

Dealing with a verbally abusive ex is one thing, but if they are physically abusive, you’re in a toxic relationship, and should just end it. I know you feel like you’re still in love, but don’t kid yourself, unless they get counseling, it will not stop. Relationship rescue for a situation like this, is for your ex to get some counseling.

If they refuse, it’s time to give up on this relationship rescue, and move on. You can get over an abusive ex with some self help relationship advice. Your library carries self help CD’s and books, of course personal support would really help. Someone to talk to while you work your way through a self help plan. I really hope that relationship rescue is possible for you, and your abusive ex.

Most people can not do this all by themselves. That is why it is wise to find someone who will help you take on this battle. If you are emotionally unbalanced you need someone or something to keep you in balance…Right? Dealing with an abusive ex, and relationship rescue is much easier, with the right approach.

You need a plan, a plan that works. If you want to survive this abusive ex you’ll need help. If you do not have a good plan I do, and it works. I’ll be happy to help you, and to support you. Just contact me and start learning how to deal with an abusive ex. Do It Today! Learn from your mistakes before you make them, and achieve relationship rescue. What can I do to help you deal with your abusive ex? Write me and let me know…OK?

Until next time,

S. Williams

~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~

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Louise