Is this verbal abuse? Please help, details inside?
Ana Maria asked:
I have a really good friend who has been in an on again-off again relationship for about 5 years. The problem is the guy. He is mean to her. he gets so jealous at the smallest things. He checks her phone after every text message she gets to make sure it’s not from another guy. Twice, he has slammed her phone on the ground because she was talking to another guy. He goes to her house uninvited, and follows her everywhere and knows where she is all the time. He’s mean to her friends. He called me two very harsh names that aren’t true and it almost made me cry. He has done the same to two of her other friends. She has called me at least 5 times asking me what to do about him because he made her so mad. Yet, she keeps going back to him. I’m scared one day he’s going to hit her. She means alot to me, and I don’t want him to hurt her. What can I do? Anything?
I have a really good friend who has been in an on again-off again relationship for about 5 years. The problem is the guy. He is mean to her. he gets so jealous at the smallest things. He checks her phone after every text message she gets to make sure it’s not from another guy. Twice, he has slammed her phone on the ground because she was talking to another guy. He goes to her house uninvited, and follows her everywhere and knows where she is all the time. He’s mean to her friends. He called me two very harsh names that aren’t true and it almost made me cry. He has done the same to two of her other friends. She has called me at least 5 times asking me what to do about him because he made her so mad. Yet, she keeps going back to him. I’m scared one day he’s going to hit her. She means alot to me, and I don’t want him to hurt her. What can I do? Anything?
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Brian
Tags: Good Friend, Text Message
June 15th, 2009 at 9:15 am
Paul
Both verbal and mental abuse…
But there is not a great deal that you can do.
lf she keeps going back to this jerk…then she wants her head read.
June 16th, 2009 at 4:51 pm
Tyler
yes it is abuse, and I hate to say it your dammed if you do and your dammed if you don’t You can call the police on him, but this may cause problems for her instead of helping her. just try talking to her and let her know how you are feeling, and try to be there for her, from the sounds of it, if she is wise she will leave this abusive relationship
June 17th, 2009 at 7:08 pm
Kohan
idk if its abuse but why do girls stay with guys like that i would punch him in the face
i do not recomend punching him
June 20th, 2009 at 7:45 pm
Harrison
This is a complex situation for sure. I think if I really cared about my friend I would ask her to come over and talk privately to me about the guy. Like tell her what he’s done to you and that if she goes at this rate with him she isn’t going to have many friends. I’m sure you would be there for her until the end but it would also be scary for you to come over if she is thinking about spending the rest of her life with this guy… to me, no girl should be treated this badly… EVER so she obviously deserves much better (tell her this too)… when and if you tell her this, say it in a way that isn’t imposing but is definitely concerned for her well being. People like him can change people like your friend… and when i say change i mean they usually will start feeling down on themselves more and feel depressed. As for her if she doesn’t want to listen or hear what you have to say, all you can do is be a good friend and kind of let her figure this one out on her own… i hope this helps.
June 22nd, 2009 at 9:44 am
Jade
stay out of it. i have dealt with crazy friends boyfriends . my best advice: stay out of it and let your friend deal with him by herself.