Who Really Wants to be in an Abusive Relationship?
Thursday, May 7th, 2009
nadia cherubin asked:
Relationships: Abusive Relationships.
When in an abusive relationship, it’s not easy to get out because so many threats are being made by the abuser. Abuse is vice/versa.
Know that: Not only men abuse women. Women abuse men just as well too. Now most women that get involved in abusive relationships normally don’t see the warning signs until it’s too late where they end up dead! Either way, someone gets killed whether it’s the man killing the woman, or the woman killing the man because they’ve had enough of the abuse where the woman have to face harsher jail sentences just cause they killed the man that they were in an abusive relationship with and most people might say, why didn’t you just get out when you had the chance to then all of that drama could of been avoided and that’s when you realize that particular question cannot be answered because when women are in abusive relationships they can’t even answer that question because they’re confused themselves, and really don’t know what to do and tend to stick around thinking that the man will change his ways.
The warning signs of abuse:
-The man throwing tantrums when things don’t go their way.
-Verbally abusive (name calling)
-Insecurity(accusations)-When they’re out doing dirt so they have it in the back of their minds that the woman is cheating when all the while they’re cheating and feeling guilty so they tend to fault the woman because of their silly actions because they feel they will get caught.
-Disrespect: Telling the woman what to eat and wear and trying to run the woman’s life.
Either way you look at it, these are all the signs of abuse. But can you really trust those men that abuse these women? No, because once a man hits you, he’ll always hit you. If you’re in an abusive relationship with someone and the minute that they hit you, you leave right away where you shouldn’t look back. No ifs, ands, or butts about it. No matter how much they say they love you and they won’t do it again. 9 out of 10 times they come back harder while trying to break your spirit. The minute a man is free with his hands, it doesn’t get any better. Although, men that abuse women normally hate to see the woman prosper and move on with their lives because they prefer the woman to remain broken-spirited where she has to depend on the man while making the woman’s life miserable just because they are miserable themselves Remember: Misery loves company!
Although, it’s very stressful when in an abusive relationship because the women tend to let themselves go and not caring about themselves and their appearances while obeying the man whose actually abusing them. Some women thibk that it’s the only man that they can get and fooling themselves thinking that the abusive man will always be there for them and loves them when it’s not true when all the while there are good men out there that don’t believe in beating a woman which is a plus. Overall, I’d rather be with a man who wouldn’t abuse me. Some women recover from the abuse that they had to deal with and some never bounce back to a point where they end up having low self esteem. We all know that low self esteem is not a good thing, because you have to love yourself first bfore getting together with any man and if you can do that, then you would automatically know off the bat that you wouldn’t settle for less, no way, no how and then that only means that your standards are very high and will remain to stay that way. I truly believe that when you start a relationship with someone you should really check out the parents or their background more than anything and how they live because you never really know someone and the way they are if you never investigate and analyze them yourself.
Remember: Most abusers come from watching the father abusing the mother so they learn from their father because they think it’s okay to pound on a woman. But as I mntioned before that women abuse men too as well and just can’t help themselves, these women always end up alone because of their wreckless behavior and their insecurity issues that she has all because she fears that the man might leave her for another woman or just won’t let the man live their lives so they also get free with their hands and does nothing but suffocate her man with her jealousy and her insecurity issues. These type of women are more dangerous than the man because no matter how you put it, the woman might be so scorned to a point where she ends up killing or harimng her mate because she’s so possessive and abusive.
But why do we continue to stay in an abusive relationship if we’re still going to remain unhappy? That’s an answer women and men have to answer for themselves no matter how much denial one might be in. Now, some poeple that have never been in an abusive relationship are against this type of behavior and want to say something when they witness an abuser abusing his partner in any kind of way, but can’t really help but avoid it, because abuse is all around no matter what you do or say. But can you really avoid being in an abusive relationship? Yes, you can and the way you can avoid being in an abusive realtionship is to never get involved in one.
Words from experience: The minute you see the signs that I have mentioned earlier. You leave ASAP and don’t look back because you’ll live to regret it to the fullest. For those men and women out there, will you finally open up your eyes and see that staying in an abusive relationship can kill you emotionally and keeping you feeling paralyzed on the inside because your spirit ends up broken, or will you continue to stay in an abusive relationship whereas you’ll die!
Relationships: Abusive Relationships.
When in an abusive relationship, it’s not easy to get out because so many threats are being made by the abuser. Abuse is vice/versa.
Know that: Not only men abuse women. Women abuse men just as well too. Now most women that get involved in abusive relationships normally don’t see the warning signs until it’s too late where they end up dead! Either way, someone gets killed whether it’s the man killing the woman, or the woman killing the man because they’ve had enough of the abuse where the woman have to face harsher jail sentences just cause they killed the man that they were in an abusive relationship with and most people might say, why didn’t you just get out when you had the chance to then all of that drama could of been avoided and that’s when you realize that particular question cannot be answered because when women are in abusive relationships they can’t even answer that question because they’re confused themselves, and really don’t know what to do and tend to stick around thinking that the man will change his ways.
The warning signs of abuse:
-The man throwing tantrums when things don’t go their way.
-Verbally abusive (name calling)
-Insecurity(accusations)-When they’re out doing dirt so they have it in the back of their minds that the woman is cheating when all the while they’re cheating and feeling guilty so they tend to fault the woman because of their silly actions because they feel they will get caught.
-Disrespect: Telling the woman what to eat and wear and trying to run the woman’s life.
Either way you look at it, these are all the signs of abuse. But can you really trust those men that abuse these women? No, because once a man hits you, he’ll always hit you. If you’re in an abusive relationship with someone and the minute that they hit you, you leave right away where you shouldn’t look back. No ifs, ands, or butts about it. No matter how much they say they love you and they won’t do it again. 9 out of 10 times they come back harder while trying to break your spirit. The minute a man is free with his hands, it doesn’t get any better. Although, men that abuse women normally hate to see the woman prosper and move on with their lives because they prefer the woman to remain broken-spirited where she has to depend on the man while making the woman’s life miserable just because they are miserable themselves Remember: Misery loves company!
Although, it’s very stressful when in an abusive relationship because the women tend to let themselves go and not caring about themselves and their appearances while obeying the man whose actually abusing them. Some women thibk that it’s the only man that they can get and fooling themselves thinking that the abusive man will always be there for them and loves them when it’s not true when all the while there are good men out there that don’t believe in beating a woman which is a plus. Overall, I’d rather be with a man who wouldn’t abuse me. Some women recover from the abuse that they had to deal with and some never bounce back to a point where they end up having low self esteem. We all know that low self esteem is not a good thing, because you have to love yourself first bfore getting together with any man and if you can do that, then you would automatically know off the bat that you wouldn’t settle for less, no way, no how and then that only means that your standards are very high and will remain to stay that way. I truly believe that when you start a relationship with someone you should really check out the parents or their background more than anything and how they live because you never really know someone and the way they are if you never investigate and analyze them yourself.
Remember: Most abusers come from watching the father abusing the mother so they learn from their father because they think it’s okay to pound on a woman. But as I mntioned before that women abuse men too as well and just can’t help themselves, these women always end up alone because of their wreckless behavior and their insecurity issues that she has all because she fears that the man might leave her for another woman or just won’t let the man live their lives so they also get free with their hands and does nothing but suffocate her man with her jealousy and her insecurity issues. These type of women are more dangerous than the man because no matter how you put it, the woman might be so scorned to a point where she ends up killing or harimng her mate because she’s so possessive and abusive.
But why do we continue to stay in an abusive relationship if we’re still going to remain unhappy? That’s an answer women and men have to answer for themselves no matter how much denial one might be in. Now, some poeple that have never been in an abusive relationship are against this type of behavior and want to say something when they witness an abuser abusing his partner in any kind of way, but can’t really help but avoid it, because abuse is all around no matter what you do or say. But can you really avoid being in an abusive relationship? Yes, you can and the way you can avoid being in an abusive realtionship is to never get involved in one.
Words from experience: The minute you see the signs that I have mentioned earlier. You leave ASAP and don’t look back because you’ll live to regret it to the fullest. For those men and women out there, will you finally open up your eyes and see that staying in an abusive relationship can kill you emotionally and keeping you feeling paralyzed on the inside because your spirit ends up broken, or will you continue to stay in an abusive relationship whereas you’ll die!