loca asked:


He tells me that I look annorexic when I wear a tight shirt because it makes my boobs stick out but my stomach look in. I don’t understand. I’m fit. I’m naturally skinny. I have abs, but you cannot see them with my shirt on of course. He has told me before this that I looked annorexic because he said I never ate, just because I never ate around him. It makes me feel like crap, and I feel as though I cannot wear tight clothes around him. I do eat all the time. I see him about twice a week. How does that justify how much I eat.

Harrison

sunshine asked:


my boyfriend who is 27 years old and i were fighting. he called me a b*tch. he told me to shut the fu*k up and i’m fu*king annoying. i told him never to say those things to me and he said everyone curses when they’re mad and he said i deserved to be called that at that moment. i said so i’m a bit*h? and he said if i acted like one at that moment i deserve to be called that. he never called me that afterwards. but he did say to shut the f up and im f-in annoying a few more times. i never cursed at him nor called him names b/c i just had that respect. everyone raises their voice when they’re mad but he told me never to raise my voice. i tried to speak one time and he kept repeating “i’m the victim, i’m the victim over and over” while i was speaking so he didnt hear me. he said i’m mentally ill, i drive him away and i make him sick. he said he’s usually not like this to anyone and i bring this side of him out. i frustrate him so much.

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i ask him why he’s with me if i make him sick and i drive him away? and he said you’re right so he leaves me. but he calls me a week later and just plays with my emotions. i love him but he gives me a hard time. when we break up or he just leaves saying i make him sick, i try so hard to move on even though it’s hard. and then after a week or two of not calling he calls, i don’t pick up. he doesnt leave a message. then he doesnt call. what is he doing? playing games???? what do i do??? he told me i make him sick and i drove him away. last night he calls me a few times but doesnt leave a message. now he hasnt called and im looking at my phone. do i have to call him back? is he playing games with me? what is he doing??????????? plesse help me. i just turned off my phone b/c i kept looking at it thinking is he going to call. do i just move on?
also..he lies to me about talking to his ex-gf which i found out a different way. he said he did nothing wrong b/c nothing happened but he kept it a secret meeting her and talking to her. he tells me they dont talk anymore but i know they do. it’s been 2 days since we’ve broken up but seriously…what do i do? he’s playing games??

Gary

kirei.keiko asked:


My parents always call me names, saying I’m a stupid whore, or saying my friends are shit, and anything I like is crap. Everything I do is wrong. I’m not allowed to make mistakes in my house. I’m always trying to please my parents but nothing ever works. They’ve never threatened my physically, but I know they don’t love me. Ever since second grade, I’ve been writing in my diary about my hatred towards my parents. They don’t listen to me. My problems are always just because it’s my fault to them. Yet I still try to please them. I told myself to move out on my 18th birthday, but I still have 3 years, and I can’t stand it any longer. What should I do?
thanks for all the help but there’s just one thing… in my culture, ‘talking’ to parents is just weird. there’s no such sentence as ‘i love you’ or ‘i need to talk to you’ it’ll be another excuse for them to say i’m stupid.

Greg

Bo B asked:


when i was in middle school my dad screamed at me a lot for not doing well in school one night he found out that i had bad grades and he screamed at me to get my jacket on and that we were going for a walk he then said you have no idea what i feel like doing to you right now he then said that the world doesn’t give a damn about me and neither do my friends and family he would often start slamming things and breaking things when i was having a hard time with homework he once kicked over a trash can and told me to pick up the trash and the trash was pretty gross ive always wondered am i just sensitive or was i abused?

Lee

Darkness Soothes Me asked:


People argue, but I never say things as cruel as my boyfreind of 7 years. He will say he no longer loves me and lost that feeling and is just “used” to being with me. Example: yesterday he was angry and irritable, wanted me to swipe a valium for him from an elderly family member, when I could not and did not want to he got ridiculously cruel- said “all you do is sit on your fat ass, not helping me or cleaning or doing laundry, you disgust me!” (I admit I have been very depressed and meds make me tired lately) he then said “You are getting old and wrinkly”, “no longer look as hot”-though I am given compliments by others often. He says he wants to date others, asks to add a new girl to the picture (how rude), says he feels just too guilty to leave cause I am unable to take care of myself. That refers to my being out of work due to medical reasons, sever depression recently. .. he threatens to leave and dump me but wants to remain living here. I think, when he realizes rents are too high and my moms place is a good deal, he changes tunes and acts like nothing ever happened. Wants me to forget it and do him favors. Like tonight for example: After he called me all those cruel and hurtful names and dumped me, called me for a favor- wants me to go pick him up at work tonight at 1am with a borrowed car b/c his ran out of gas, AFTER he said all that mean stuff and ended our relationship just yesterday? he said “well I apologized, then forget it I will walk” and hangs up on me. Would you do it? He gets me because I worry about him and feel guilty. What would you do? Is this normal for couples and I should just let it slide due to his childhood issues and moods or is it an abusive environment contributing to my lowering self-esteem and depression. I feel lost.
I know I seem text book, weird how it happens and the guilt I get, like I am wrong. I guess I let the fact that he had an abusive and sad childhood, keep me from moving on. I excuse it I guess, but now it is ruining my life and feel either I change or I will end up dead or in a nut house.
clarification- not dead from him (he was only physical once) years ago-pushed me, but he was intoxicated and stopped drinking though he pops pills now to put up with me. I am not perfect, but I do not say “I don’t love you” whenever I am mad. I am far less cruel. People say I am allegedly “beautiful”, not that I believe that any more, but my former job was in acting/modeling. Some say he is insecure and does it outta fear, but that does not excuse it does it?
Some ask why I stick around, I guess
1. Guilt, like I must “save” like I am respoonsible- I feel parent-esque, or mom-like sometimes
2. FEAR FEAR FEAER he will harm himslef as he joked he would kill himself or me if I left -main reason
3. Fear I would miss the good parts

Bruce

Kourtney M asked:


So I’ve been with this guy for over 2 years, and I’m am so sick and tired of the way he talks to me. When he gets in a bad mood he belittles me by yelling at me and calling me awful names, like a bitch and a slut. I know I don’t deserve to be treated like this. I tell him that it bothers me when he talks to me that way, and he says he was upset and I deserved to get yelled at like the. I guess the part that hurts the most is that I love this guy with all my heart& i just can’t believe he treats me that way.

Paul

lesliebedford623 asked:


So…
I told my husband tonight that I wanted to seperate and that I thought it would be best for us if we were apart.Well, at first it went over ok, then shit hit the fan. Needless to say he is not happy about this! He said that I am giving up on him and that he needs my help, and I said that there is nothing for me to do, I have givin him all the help I can, but that the rest is up to him.
The thing is…like I said…I have been with him for 5 years, married almost 3 years. He started anti-depressents about 3 weeks ago, he says they arn’t strong enough, that he needs stronger. (he’s on effexor 70 MG) But, I have been the brunt of his unhappiness. I have been screamed at, have things thrown at me while Im holding the baby, been called names, he’s left all weekend to play “video games” at his friends house, he doesn’t take his pill on the weekend so he can drink, he’s threated to “pound my face into the wall”, “smash the cell phone through my face”, “i’m being a c***!”
Do you think he is ever really going to change? Or is this really over? My head keeps telling me its over, but my heart wants to hang on…What should I do?

Kerri

hazel.93@sbcglobal.net asked:


No, I am not crazy… But my dog stayed at my step-grandmother’s house while I was hospitalized. There was another dog there (her) dog a pesky little rat we will call a chiuawana or PEPE. This dog would not leave my dog alone for the life of her. I feel my dog got tired of this dog bothering her, and not being walked, I walk my dog 4x a day. Step-GM doesn’t walk her dog, just throughs it out in the back yard. Well, my dog peed in house a few times, and when she did shit hit the van verbally to my dog. Call her an embarrassment, you should be ashamed of yourself, I hate your behaviour. I just don’t think you should speak down to anything excpet maybe a murder or criminal. It just brought back times to when I was young and I was spoken to like that. I can’t have kids, I rescue animals….. and I just want to give them the best life verbally, physically, and emotionally. Please help….. I just think this tactic was cool.

Geoff

Ana Maria asked:


I have a really good friend who has been in an on again-off again relationship for about 5 years. The problem is the guy. He is mean to her. he gets so jealous at the smallest things. He checks her phone after every text message she gets to make sure it’s not from another guy. Twice, he has slammed her phone on the ground because she was talking to another guy. He goes to her house uninvited, and follows her everywhere and knows where she is all the time. He’s mean to her friends. He called me two very harsh names that aren’t true and it almost made me cry. He has done the same to two of her other friends. She has called me at least 5 times asking me what to do about him because he made her so mad. Yet, she keeps going back to him. I’m scared one day he’s going to hit her. She means alot to me, and I don’t want him to hurt her. What can I do? Anything?

Thanks and 10pts to best answer

Brian

lovepeace asked:


my hubby is not in good mood due to his work…and screams over small things and make it sound like my mistake….he even swears and later said he is not swearing at me just to himself… just because he got angry…he can immediately change the good atmosphere into bad….and few minutes later comes over starts kissing and being nice…
-but when i told him that he was being rude he said no i was just upset and talking normally…
-or why you didn’t do it the first time i told you…
-we are married for long
-he is polite otherwise most of the time…but 3 years ago he did the same for months again due to job problem.
what can i do????tell me please
i have done talking but doesn’t seems to work
-i don’t want it to get worst
-i want to make him realize that it totally upsets me and stresses me out
-when he snaps i just want to pack up and leave…
i asked him to take anger managment while ago…when i pushed him hard he behaived for long time but did not do the therapy…recently we come across some rough patch and still recovering…

Lyle